WHAT IS TRAUMA?
Trauma occurs when we aren't expecting it.
It can happen because
we see or experience something we never imagined in our world.
Like being raped by a loved one, becoming unexpectedly ill or
experiencing a horrible accident.
It can happen after
anticipation of the worst doesn't live up to our expectations,
like in traumatic experiences of war.
And, it can often
happen when we have had more painful or unexpected experiences
than we can unconsciously handle at one time, we reach our
breaking point and don't know how to get back to ourselves.
All of these can be the start of a period of
trauma, and all deserve the same amount of respect, love and
consideration as individuals find their paths to healing.
SOCIETY AND TRAUMA
We are living in an interesting time from a
sociological perspective when it comes to trauma. I would
call this our individualist and expansion time - and a time when
many of us are having a hard time finding the healing assistance
we need because of the way we are choosing to view trauma.
Every day we are all offered mixed messages on
We are told to be strong means we don't show our
emotions, that when we are in pain we need to hide until we 'get
better'. That to feel more than we can handle in a moment
means there is something wrong with us, shame on us for not
being able to 'roll with it'.
Trauma is not someone's fault. Let me say
that again, TRAUMA IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
We as a society need to
stop blaming people for their pain.
We also as a society often tout helping people less
fortunate than ourselves, those in pain, those who seem to be
struggling with illness or loss. Yet when it comes to trauma, we often miss what is
right in front of us. We aren't trained to see when
people are in emotional pain. Those who have been through so much, layers of
pain have developed into a state of constant stress.
When people we know start acting different, when
they are more reactive or reclusive, often, as they have changed
without our understanding, our first response is anger.
Anger because they changed our world, yet, we need to understand
that when someone is in that amount of pain, they CANNOT be who
they were. They need to heal and reintegrate themselves.
This takes time AND they can heal.
In fact, those I've worked with often tell me
the other side of trauma is so much sweeter than before.
Trauma is something that we can heal through.
I hope this work and this site offer both options and the
knowing that we can find our way through the fire, and come
through even more true to ourselves and clearer on our paths
than every before.
Namaste (I see the light within you and it's